Kids nowadays are different

Two days ago, i was eating out for lunch at a nearby hawker stall, which is my favourite for now at my taman. i was commenting to my bf about how cheap the mixed rice was, compared to the price that was charged to me 20% higher at my working place. the food was js shortly displayed, and full of varieties, i dont think it would that much variety if i came 1.5 hrs later (a lot of hungry working people here during lunchtime). we had an early 11am lunch (or perhaps brunch). we wanted to go somewhere, i remembered, but to where, i forgotten.

A young couple was behind of me, eating with their 2 kids (1 kor kor aged roughly 3-4yrs old, the other is still a baby boy). out of sudden, the big brother cried out loudly, grumbling in between his cries, demanding for rice. immediately, like a normal 3-8 person would do, i looked at the table, searching for his food his mum was feeding him. yeh, it was not rice, some noodles soup instead. what happened was he wanted to eat his younger brother's food, for his mum was feeding his younger brother with some porridge or sth similar to which babies can swallow.

Kids nowadays are more demanding. i've seen more cases like this. they want what they want, and unless they get it, they won't stop showing "kerenah"s. i dont remember myself showing so much kerenahs in front of my parents when i was at that age. i should say, my mum, who happen to be a nurse, disciplined us four well. but now, she let us have our say on how we want to lead our lives. look, mum, we all become independent now.

So, to all adults, these pointers may be helpful in ensuring your kids behave, based on my observations over the years:

1. Give them what they want only when they do what you told them to do, ie. behave well in public/ at home.

2. Tell them that if they don't behave, they will be grounded from doing what they like (eg. watching tv for 2 hrs, no toys session or no playground session in the evenings). implement what you have said, or they wont take you seriously next time.

3. Make up stories about some friend's kids who don't behave well, and ended up losing friends. This slightly-threatening tactic seems to work to one of the kid that i myself could not control his hyperactive cum slight bully behaviour, and boy, he was darn scared of not having friends each time he hears his adult reminding him the same story, over and over. i wonder till when this works, before he knows this is just a made-up story.

4. If we punish them when they are ill-behaved, we should also reward them when they are well-behaved. The degree of rewarding is also crucial. Please reward sparingly, or else, you may end up being informally financially broke by your kids' demands. For eg. a reward upgrade from a wall's ice cream to haagen-daaz ice-cream within a week. At that stage, please dont come and blame me for my pointers. i dont have extra haagen daaz ice-cream to spare your kids!

5. Lastly, always remind them that your intention is never bad. it's a parent's obligation to discipline their kids into a better person as they grow up. And comparing themselves with another kid from the same school which your kids thinks he is luckier, only makes them happy now, but spoilt and overreliant later. At that point of time, tell them another story!

Rgds,
Once-a-kid-too

Before you get caught by the common "A" sickness...

I was browsing through this website which i think was pretty useful for us all (especially as we age, u know). It's a short article about the food consumption we should take note & not take for granted, in getting away from the common "A" sickness, the "Alzheimer".

The article mentioned about 5 ways to get rid of A sickness, but i somehow didnt really get the 3rd point. But i was really amazed when i read point no.4 in the article, especially on the studies made in Singapore. What it mentioned somehow sounds crazy, absurd, it can make u go HU?H, but do give the article a read, and see if you have the same opinion with me (well, i must say there's a loud HU?H from myself after reading it).

So after this, eat less char kuey teow/ fried rice which plainly gives us short term satisfaction but lack of so much nutrients. At least, i know, it definitely won't help much in skipping the A sickness.

Rgds

http://www.cnn.com/2008/HEALTH/conditions/11/20/ep.alzheimers.brain.exercise/index.html?imw=Y&iref=mpstoryemail

S.T.O.P and S.T.A.R.E.

If you remember this blog title, it's actually from a song title. But it's not about the song that im gonna blog tonight. it's about the experience i got tonight, on my way back from office (nvm where i was taking the lrt from first).

today, i got a little hooked by collecting all my work assignment's tax estimations for many many years back from the current year (way back from YA1989 up to YA2008, brr..). for that, i left office almost 7.40pm, and headed directly to the lrt.

everything was usual, except as when i was reaching the last station, a non Malaysian guy dressed in yellow tshirt just scarily "stop and stare" at me. yes, gotta say that he scarily looked at me, cuz i dont feel easy one bit. he's definitely someone all ladies would stay alert at in public area, and thousands of imaginations were in my head on what ugly things could happen next.

i left the train at the next stop, but using a further entrance from him. then i realised he was getting off at the same lrt! boy, my heart beat so fast. at that time, i was thinking of how to avoid him, again. i know, i needed to get into my car. but the car park is kind of isolated, with dim spotlights (looks like uncle can only do this best for the carpark visitors). being paranoid, and not wanting anything to happen to me, i quickly shifted my footsteps to the nearest magazine store. i pretended to read the magazine (the owner must hv been too busy entertaining others he din noticed me).

i eyed at the exit every second, until, poop, he was at my sight. walking so selamba-ly, he went down the stairs and turn to my carpark area! gosh, how i wished he turned right instead of left. i called my boyfriend, and talked about the incident, in a way, to calm myself down also. so i braved myself to turn left, and Thank Goodness he was nowhere at sight (but he may be hiding somewher in the bushes nearby).

you should see my facial expression when i walked toward my car, downhill. so alert and all that, like i'm holding a million ringgit (which i'm planning to get one day=)). till i hear the car being locked, tuut, then i felt so... relieved. boy, that was a scary incident, yet how many times can other ladies being lucky and get away from this incident? what if it turns ugly at the end of my story? by then, i really wonder if i could ever survived through that bitter experience. im definitely returning from office before the day gets dark tomorrow.*

Chinese tea freak*

Hey guys,

I dunno why, but I've been a pu-er tea drinker freak this week. Well, at least that's the only chinese tea i have in my kitchen for now.

Perhaps i like the sugar-free and caffeine-free drinks better than those yi mai/ sea coconut drinks with extremely generous syrup given which i have in hawker stalls during all my lunches and dinners.

So i would not mind having a cup or 2 of chinese tea before i doze off to sleep.
Hey, i also find out tat it helps for times when u got hangover. for that reason, all the more i will be driven to drink chinese tea for i cant help it but having late nights!

So to those who don't drink chinese tea, i'm recommending you to read the links below. And for those pu-er drinkers' freaks, keep drinking and cheers to u all! lolz.*


http://www.generationtea.com/learn.htm

http://www.real-foods.net/chinese-herbal-tea-remedy.html

http://chinese-tea.net/10-famous-tea.htm


rgds,
pao phing

My Big Plans If I Have 1 Million RInggit

RM400,000 to buy a new furnished house (less toll access pls)
RM80,000 for a brand new Honda City (is it enough?)
RM20,000 for a europe plus uk tour with my darling
RM10,000 for luxurious shopping for something family & close friends dreamt of having
RM12,000 to my parents each year (for as long as i can)
RM4,000 to go to bali trip, then another RM4,000 to pukket trip for 2
RM2,000 for big makan to family and friends
RM100,000 on share investment (to multiply my $ xD)
RM50,000 for savings
Balance money to use up for more and more tripsss in years to come with family and friends =D

How will your plan differs from me, i wonder...

p/s: if i do some charity donation, perhaps i can utilise my tax payable deduction a little. hee...


Rgds,
--------> Pao^Phing

Overseas pathway, for the better?

Tonight, i got myself glued on the computer again, while tw is busily completing his work from home. Managed to sent some keep-in-touch msges to my old frens, some may reply, some may not reply. yet i tried to keep the "yello, how are u messages" going.

Then, i came across some blogs belonging to my friends & close ones and made me wonder if being away to another nation, over the sea, is a worthwhile experience. i myself experience a short 4 months trip in sheffield, uk. yet that's long enough to share my opinions here.

To me, its an entirely different experience if u adventure this opportunistic journey alone. some may want to stick to the the whole-gang-going-overseas-tgt experience, but i took the different path for once. away frm my good best friends, i flew alone. i must admit, i bring along a lot of sorrow (i js din tell many friends that) but i also bring along a lot of excitement to the unexpected experience in an country that is so alien to me. some doubted my decision, but i stick to it. one month later, i flew.

Does not mean that being overseas urself is a mistake. a wrong decision. not at all. a lot of us hv gone through this as part of our life. it just make u Stronger. Wiser. an Achiever. U can tell more meaningful stories to ur grandkids in future, as u observe a Wider experience, go thru the joy n pain' Entire process and heal along with it, solve ur Own bitterness and tackle the Small Devil in ur heart, that keep on telling u it's a wrong decision u made, and urging u to return to ur old past.

well, looking back to the past is never gonna help u to move forward. yes, we can all thnk back of the good memories, but then the old memories wont be relived to the present/ the future js by thinking back. my advice, js do not question of ur decision of where u are now, stick to what u hv decided, and move forward. any comments from those staying abroad/ once stayed abroad?

M( ) ( ) N c A lk e ^ F e $ T 1 v A lL . . .

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Good dinner at Tw's cousins' home, then we spent some quality time at the front porch lighting up some lanterns, telling endless stories and capturing lots of memorable pictures. Just a few to share with you all...

Looking toward more mooncake parties with you all. Also experiencing ketupat crave this raya too. So wai sek...

~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ivy^phing ~~~~~~~~~~~~

Productive weekend, I must say...

Starting fri onwards, i continued on working after dinner.

Then i found out on sat that my bro went out dinner with my new zealander cousin sister to eat yummy butter crab on fri night! Felt like i didnt gave her a proper goodbye, but thanks also to my sweet bro for not rmbring to call me to join in.

But i had a good 1901 hotdog bun offer for RM1.99 every 19th of the month. ate 1 new york chicken and beef hotdog and felt so... full after that. worth a try, but i advise not to do this every 19th or u'll be hospitalised shortly! >.<

Sis came over to meet up on sat, and stayed overnight till mon. will bring her to see her colleagues, also my colleagues mon morning! brought her to eat dim sum at damansara palace, kota damansara during lunchtime. luckily they still serve at that time. hee... but gonna be so sad to send her off at airport 2 weeks from now =(.

so i continued on working from 10pm-midnight, when paul called to cancel off the yum cha plan at 11. felt so bangga could finish up 80% of what i planned to complete this week, but feel so giddy and sleepy after that.

as for tak wei, he was occupied with yum cha and snooker plans with his college friends and got hangover the next sun. and now he's feeling feverish. i wonder when his fever will gonna subside...

gonna have dinner soon. before that, gotta send sister off to meet her friends at the curve. haiz...


pp signing out.

I'm just tryin' to survive...

Tick, tick, tick...
Clock's ticking;
and my eyes were glued to the laptop screen;
my pair of eyeballs were moving rigorously;
like there was no end to it;
while my fingers were moving just as fast;
like Norah Jones and her piano keys;
I just cant barely stop;
as there were still so much to do.

Tick, tick, tick...
Life's moving so fast;
Family and friends are ageing;
while little nieces & nephews are growing;
For when life is tough;
look through your past;
how joyful life was before;
even with serious jokes
we could laugh together;
like there was no worries.

Hip hip hurray;
hip hip hurray;
Jump as high as you can;
and leave the sorrow behind.

Just like the way we are now...

Aw, guys ---> (Saila, Stella, Keat Eu), it was a great surprise to meet up each other in Mid dori Cafe last Friday nite. Despite me feeling so tired after working and travelling hours, yet i felt that my energy has rebounced when i saw u guys again.

Thanks also to the milk tea 'lau ban yang' recommended to me. That drink cuz me to sleep only at 4.30am and sadly it only lasted for Four
hrs (brrrr...). Mum was being considerate to make sure i'm tugged under the blanket, but little did she knew that she woke me up. luckily im an early-bird person. phew...

(K.E.'s way of taking picture)

Meeting back you guys make me wanna stay in malacca longer, and not go back to the fast moving kl city life =(.

But i accept the fact that life goes on, as K.E. is leaving for England soon, to achieve his first million Ringgit =) , and Saila is coming up to KL for internship =). And Stella is to move over closer to my house in kl >. Let's keep in touch-h-h and im looking forward to another year, to see if anything changes. I really hope not. Im liking just like the way we are now...

cyber*diary...how cool can dat be? >.<

Never fond of cyber diary;
but ironically im having one now;
Never thought that one day someone would invade into my personal lifestory;
But i ain't gonna be selfish to keep all to myself;
For life is to be shared;
For no man is an island.

Everywhere you go, please don't walk alone;
Cuz single rushed footsteps can be silent sometimes;
You look fine, when actually you are disturbed;
Yet i ain't gonna laugh at you;
For i was once there.

Just remember this;
That whenever you have no one to share your food and laughter with;
Don't forget that i'm Always here for you...